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Updated: Nov 6, 2023

Abide in Me!

Ordinarily, safe havens and unconditional affection can always be found at home. When it comes to women who have experienced a tremendous deal of pain and suffering, we are always looking for places to relax and be ourselves. All victims of domestic abuse want a haven where they can rest their heads, hearts, and souls. In many ways, your home serves as a haven. We all expect to experience a sense of warmth and comfort in our own homes – rightfully so. It's also worth noting that our homes are among the rare settings where infections are not prevalent in the wake of the coronavirus outbreak. It is impossible to emphasize how wonderful it is to be and to feel at home!

Nevertheless, many people find that their house is not always safe. When you're at home, it's possible that your partner will hit you the hardest—the place where you were mistreated maybe also where you call home. Everyone justifiably needs a haven to call their own, even if it is cluttered with reminders of their past trauma. How can you deal with the reality that you don't feel at home in your current situation? The search for a place to call home will eventually lead you to many unexpected places and influence your decisions. In this stage, you may find yourself turning to intimacy, drugs, the streets, or having sex with a random person to relieve your stress.

What do the scriptures tell us, though? We can "abide in" God's word, according to John 15:4-5, which says that we should do so as well as be able to produce and be surrounded by abundance if we continue to trust in him. Although a tragic event has occurred, there is no longer a sense of scarcity but rather an abundance of life in the aftermath. Christ supplies us with a haven as well as a place to call our own. Now listen to these three takeaway statements:

The most beautiful aspect of having Christ on your side is that he is constantly steering you in the right direction. Open your bible and study some bible verses about stress management whenever you feel the need to be reminded that He is leading you in the right direction during a difficult situation. Your heart may suddenly feel a little warmer, and your day may appear to be a little better all of a sudden.

In Deuteronomy 31:6, God says: “Be strong! Be fearless! Don’t be afraid and don’t be scared by your enemies, because the Lord your God is the one who marches with you. He won’t let you down, and he won’t abandon you.” This verse is reassuring because it tells us that we can cast our burdens upon the Lord, and he will restore and help us find everything we seek, including a home.

Proverbs 24:3-4 reassures us that we can build and bless our own homes through wisdom. It reads, “By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.”

The place you call home should, in fact, be the place you call your home! At Abide, I want you to know that there’s always a place called home where you can safely dwell. NO matter where you are there are resources and supports that we help you whether it’s in the scriptures above or in a community resource.

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Many times we all struggle to process unpleasant past experiences, current life struggles, or uncomfortable emotions. Some common examples are feeling helpless, worthless, and alone. Healing is often seen as a process that requires external help. Whether it’s therapy, medication, or support from friends and family, many of us feel like we need outside sources in order to heal. But what if the power to heal was within ourselves all along? We can find strength and resilience within our own bodies and minds if we know where to look. In this blog post, we’ll explore how women can use the tools within themselves to begin the healing process.

1. Acknowledge Your Pain

The first step to finding the strength to heal is acknowledging your pain. This can be difficult because we often want to push away or ignore anything that causes us discomfort, but it’s important to recognize that whatever you are feeling is valid and deserves to be acknowledged. Instead of trying to suppress your feelings, take a few moments each day to sit with them and become aware of what they are trying to tell you. This can help you begin the healing process by recognizing that you have already taken the first step towards recovery.

2. Identify Your Feelings & Express Them Openly

After acknowledging your pain it is essential to find inner peace by understanding your own feelings and emotions. It’s important to identify what you are feeling—be it anger, sadness, fear, or joy—and express them openly and honestly. This means taking time for yourself to reflect on what is going on in your life. Once you can identify exactly what you are feeling, it will be easier for you to work through it and move forward with a clear head and heart.

3. The Power of Mindfulness

Mindfulness is the practice of being aware of your thoughts and feelings in the present moment without judgment. It helps us observe our inner experience without becoming overwhelmed by it. This can be extremely helpful when dealing with trauma or difficult emotions as it allows us to accept them without getting stuck in rumination or self-criticism. Being mindful also helps us cultivate an attitude of self-compassion and acceptance so that we can move through difficult times with greater ease and comfort.

4. The Benefits of Self-Care

Self-care is another important tool for healing. Taking time out for yourself is essential if you want to stay emotionally balanced and physically healthy during challenging times. Heavy feelings can take a toll on our bodies in many ways. It’s important to make sure you are engaging in activities that bring you joy to help restore your energy levels so you can better cope with any struggles you may be facing. Examples of self-care activities include taking a relaxing bath, spending time outdoors, listening to music, reading a book, writing in your journal, meditating, exercising, or having meaningful conversations with loved ones.

5. Practice Mindful Meditation

Mindfulness meditation is an effective way to tap into that inner strength that resides in all of us. The practice of mindful meditation allows us to take a moment away from our busy lives and focus solely on our innermost thoughts and feelings. Through mindful meditation, we can learn how to be present in the moment and stay grounded during difficult times. Taking just 10 minutes out of your day for mindful meditation can make a world of difference when it comes to calming your mind and restoring balance within yourself.

6. Connect With Nature

Nature has long been thought of as a source of healing energy, so connecting with nature is another great way to help empower yourself from within. Take some time each day—even if it’s just 10 minutes—to go outside and observe the beauty around you; whether it’s taking a walk in the park or simply sitting in your backyard observing the birds flying around you, there are countless ways that nature can bring peace into our lives if we allow ourselves to be open enough to receive its gifts!

7. Uncovering Your Strengths

Finally, tapping into your inner strengths is key to healing from difficult times. Many people are unaware of their true capabilities because they have never been encouraged to explore them before—but once recognized these strengths can provide great comfort during hard times. Examples of inner strengths include resilience, creativity, courage, empathy, compassion, tenacity, and resourcefulness—all of which can be tapped into when needed most!

The journey toward healing is often filled with unexpected twists and turns—and it’s easy to get overwhelmed with feelings of helplessness along the way. But remember that you have access to powerful internal resources that can help you through any difficult patch that comes up! By practicing the above techniques consistently they will help propel your path toward healing.

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Considering where you are in your life right now can be both exciting and a bit unsettling. You may feel both nervous and excited as you contemplate the endless possibilities that lie ahead. But regardless of where you currently find yourself, it is essential to remember that your current situation is not your final destination. Life is ever-changing, and there are many opportunities for growth, learning, and adventure along the way. Whether you are facing challenges or celebrating successes right now, know that everything will be okay and that ultimately, this moment is just one chapter in a much bigger story in the journey of your life.

You Are Capable of More Than You Realize

For many of us, life can feel like a never-ending journey full of ups and downs. As we go through different periods and face new challenges, our sense of what we are capable of changes over time. At first, we may genuinely believe that we have reached our limits and can't do much more than what we are already doing. However, once we start to tap into the vast reserves of strength and determination that we all possess, something incredible happens: we realize that there is so much more to come in life's journey. We begin to see that we are truly capable of achieving anything if only we put our minds to it; as a result, barriers seem to dissolve before us and the path ahead becomes clear. Learning to trust yourself and the process makes having hope a lot easier along the way. Remember, you owe it to yourself to live up to your true potential!

Being Present to Help Prepare for the Future

We all have a destination in life. Whether it's a career goal, a relationship you're working toward, or a travel destination that you dream of visiting someday, we all have something to strive for and look forward to along our journey. However, there is often another important lesson we learn as we pursue these goals: the importance of staying present. When we become too focused on the future or overwork ourselves in the pursuit of one specific end result, we can lose sight of what is happening right now. This can leave us feeling unfulfilled or dissatisfied with our accomplishments so far, even if they may actually be quite significant.

The key to realizing our full potential is to learn how to stay present in the moment and embrace what is happening in front of us without worrying about how it fits into our larger plans for the future. By taking this approach, we can start to unlock new opportunities and experiences that might not otherwise be available to us. We come to realize that no destination is ever truly final; there's always more coming down the road, as long as we are willing to keep walking that path and staying open to whatever may lie ahead. And when we finally reach those goals after many trials and tribulations, we will have learned an even deeper lesson: that real happiness lies not in the future, but in each passing moment along the way.

Life is a beautiful journey filled with many highs and lows. In order to fully enjoy the ride, we must learn how to surrender and have faith. Surrendering allows us to let go of our urge to control the outcomes in our life and just live in the moment. It enables us to trust the process of life and see it from a different, more positive perspective. And having faith gives us hope when things get tough--believing that everything will work out in the end even though we can't see how it will happen just yet. So next time you're feeling lost or stressed, remember surrendering and having faith are key elements that will enable you to enjoy the beauty of life's journey.

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