Let's be honest! Collaborating with others takes work. Regardless of what others are saying or how people will make you feel when you share your vision to others, you have to remain ten toes down. Staying ten toes down is not an easy thing to do when collaborating. There are so many racing thoughts that come to mind. When we reflect and get down to the ditty gritty, we really think about how much courage and trust it takes in order to collaborate and share your vision with others. To assist you with that, here’s 4 ways to identify trustworthy people.
The first way to identify and highlight is consistency. A trustworthy person is someone who is honest consistently. They don’t switch up their stories or try to manipulate you. If they say they will do something, they do it. This goes for big things like always showing up on time or keeping their word. Someone who makes an effort to stand behind the big and small things is likely to be a “man/woman of their word”. Consistency builds confidence in the person watching on the side.
The next indicator is confidence. Continuing to show up will instill confidence in collaboration. Confidence shows the ability to execute and perform even through pivotal aspects of your vision. A trustworthy person will have confidence in themselves and their abilities decreasing self-doubt which can feel overwhelming and intense uncertainty. You may question your abilities and reevaluate what you think you can achieve. This stops you from trying new things. You can either shut down the doubt or allow it to grow. Collaborating with a confident person allows for positive thinking and achievement of goals with a “We can do it perspective”. With such a perspective, they will also be confident in you and your abilities. This doesn’t mean they will agree with everything you do or say, but they should make you feel that your opinion matters and respect you.
Another great indicator of trustworthiness is compassion. A compassionate person will understand that everyone is going through something even if they don’t show it on the outside. Compassion literally means “to suffer together.” In trusting others you will be confronted with a myriad of emotions arising when you are working with multiple personalities and confronted with one another's suffering and feel motivated to relieve that suffering. A Compassionate person will acknowledge such feelings, validate and support the multitude of tasks and responsibilities needed for the vision. They will be there for you when you need them, whether you just need a shoulder to cry on or someone to help you with a project.
The last indicator noted is their track record of completion. Completion can be seen in different ways but the general idea is that a trustworthy person follows through on their commitments; which gives a sense of fulfillment. A sense of fulfillment can be connected to dopamine allowing for feelings of satisfaction, pleasure, and motivation to move forward. It’s easier to move forward with your vision when you have reassurance. Reassurance helps decrease your doubts or fears.
These are just a few key indicators to be mindful of, in identifying whether someone is trustworthy or not. Trust is an essential part of any healthy relationship, so it's important to be aware of the indicators early on that may be saying someone may or may not be trustworthy.
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